“ When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind
while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him/her. Only when the connection to his family is acknowledged,
and the person's responsibility seen clearly and then distributed, can the individual feel unburdened
and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him/her back. ”
by Sidonie Decourt, trained by Michaël Katzeff, following Bert Hellinger’s principles.
The family constellation is a brief therapy with the main objective of restoring natural family order allowing each member of the family assuming his/her assigned role. This method raises the awareness of the family interaction between each other. It reveals dynamics which link us unconsciously to our ancestors and past forgotten incidents allowing each individual resuming his/her “right” position.
Perhaps we suffer unknowingly a grief or a trauma affecting a member of the family (suicide, rape, exclusion, crime, abandon…). If the trauma is difficult to bear, it may be consciously or unconsciously occulted by the individual.
Lineage and hereditary psychological disorders are taken in account with more importance by practitioners.
Pain and trauma could be passed on from one generation to the next. In fact, issues with health, relationships, and career may actually be inherited. Maybe your ‘issues’ are not your own. What may have been a life saving response in a past generation, becomes life depleting in this generation.
Is your sentimental life a disaster? Do you carry an unexplained sadness in yourself? Are you depressed? Do you have an unexplained feeling of fear or loneliness? Do you often have a feeling of abandonment? Are there repetitive diseases, accidents, suicides in your family? Are your professional failures multiplying? Did you miss your father or mother? Do you have any self-destructive behavior and/or one or several addictions?
Unconsciously, we relive our mother’s depression. We repeat our father’s disappointments. We replicate the failed relationships of our parents or grandparents. Anxiety, fear, financial worries, depression, illness and unhappy relationships can all be part of our unconscious inheritance.
The family constellation therapy gives us the possibility of perceiving a different and new image, to reveal and resolve difficult situations, in using liberating and healing words.
By acting from the bottom of our heart and soul, we can give a different dynamic that is more nourishing and fulfilling to our life.
This new dynamic allows us to avoid a repetition of certain courses of events and to obtain a more appropriate place in our family system.
Our path gets clarified, our tasks simplified, our body becomes healthier and our life lighter.
This work is accomplished with respect, care and without judgment to all participants.
Bert Hellinger, a German therapist, born in 1925, has studied philosophy and theology in Germany. As a former priest and missionary, he worked and lived 16 years with the Zulu in South Africa. He is also an educator, a psychoanalyst, body therapist, group dynamic therapist, and a family therapist; he brings a lifetime of experience and wisdom to his work. The family constellations, which have become the hallmark of Hellinger’s approach, as well as his observations about systemic entanglement and resolution, have touched and changed the lives of thousands of people and numerous helping professionals carrying out their own work.
This therapy highlights family ties for instance between family members. It is the staging of the consultant’s family image.
According to Bert Hellinger the family is a system, with a collective consciousness.
This method enjoys today worldwide recognition and is used in different fields; such as therapy, company counseling, medicine, personal development, education and in a larger measure to cure the soul.
Many helping professionals estimate that Bert Hellinger is today one of the most important psychotherapists of the past years. His influence reaches beyond psychology.
He holds family constellations seminars everywhere in the world, including Asia and he has written 64 books, translated into 25 languages. His work is documented by a number of visual and audio media that are available for any interested person.